I'm Nicola, and after decades of helping others overcome challenges as a coach and mentor, I found myself facing my own turning point. Recovering from an emotionally harmful relationship in midlife, I felt lost and unsure of who I was.
Healing from my emotionally harmful relationship has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done.

Two years ago, everything changed for me.

At 56, I was on my own for the first time in 30 years, I felt lost and vulnerable. I had no idea who I was or what my life would look like now.

The only thing I knew was that I couldn’t live like this forever; life is too short for that.

From my professional work, I have seen how powerful the mind and thought can be, both in good and bad ways. So I focused on that. I might not be able to change my circumstances, but I can certainly change how I view them and how I see my future.

So I studied positive psychology, allowed myself to feel long-ignored emotions, made mistakes, and learned from them. Gradually, I began taking responsibility for my life—maybe for the first time.

I hadn’t lost myself; I had just faded into the background. Years of helping others made me forget my own needs. My passions and direction were hidden, not gone.

Now, two years after that turning point, I am happier than I have been in decades.

Now I know what I want and can say no without guilt. My passions and purpose are returning. When you stop putting others first, you finally explore your own comfort.

That’s why I created What Remains Is Her, and wrote the free workbook Who Am I?

I wrote my free workbook, Who Am I?, for women in midlife who feel lost or uncertain after difficult relationships. Drawing on my own journey, the workbook offers practical tools to help you rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and rediscover your sense of self.
You haven’t disappeared—the real you is still there. This guide will help you find her again.

You can’t change the past, but you can shape what comes next. My workbook gives you the tools to move forward with purpose.

It’s never too late to live the life you love and deserve!

Most women finish my free guide in under an hour. By the end, they often tell me, "I finally understand why I’ve been like this, and how to move forward.”

This is your first step to knowing yourself again. You’ve always been there; you just got really skilled at hiding behind a big rock.

Ready to reconnect? Download your free workbook and join our community.

 



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